From Trainer to Coach?

It was something I felt unsure about. As a trainer, a significant part of my job involves informing, advising, actively guiding participants along a path I have pre-designed. As a teacher, there’s often an expectation to simple “tell”.

Coaches are trained to – well, not do any of that!

Nevertheless, being around so many coaches and reading so much about it as a “theoretical subject”, I wanted to find out more about coaching firsthand. And boy, did I!

I tell you, when you look in the market at who to learn with, there are so many coaching companies out there, all offering top notch programmes. In the end, I went for a UK-based coaching company – it’s a subject I needed to learn in my native language. Then, having had a couple of unrelated, separate recommendations for the same provider, I though it must be “a sign”! Plus, I was able to negotiate a good deal because the owner is a fellow Springboard trainer!! I signed up for the university accredited Business & Professional post graduate certificate with Barefootcoaching.

What a good decision it turned out to be. I found myself in a group of 9 other wonderful individuals. We worked and learnt together for a total of 12 days over a 3-month period. Each module we were treated to a renowned, published speaker with years of experience as coaches – John Perry, stress coach; sports psychologist and ‘Liquid Thinker’, Damian Hughes; and top executive coach, Tom Preston. Barefoot also invites US Thinking Environment founder, Nancy Klein each year. I was unable to attend that session but I find myself utterly convinced of her ideas (see my previous blog post!).

Coaching, as I have understood it, is all about listening. Training involves listening too, then with a degree of input or advice being expected. With coaching, the fundamental belief is that the client has the answer – whether they are consciously aware of it or not. Working as a coach, according to the Barefoot philosophy, I found myself feeling liberated. My natural habit has been to (half) listen to someone while trying to come up with a brilliant, clever solution for them. As is so often the case, we think a person with a problem is looking for an answer from us. What happens when they go away with our solution to their problem? Usually not much! For best solutions, we need to come up with our own – we know the ‘problem’ from our own perspective and we have the answer which will best fit us. The coach’s job is to facilitate the thinking process so that we uncover that best answer.

With Barefootcoaching, I have been exposed to a multitude of differing methods and approaches to coaching. For me, this was ideal. I am not a specific NLP- or systemic- or CBT-coach. I work with a mixture of methods and tools according to what I feel best suits my client’s needs. I feel myself to be unique; my coaching style is the ‘Michelle Hunter’ style of coaching. No doubt, as my experience grows, my style will develop, become more informed and richer. The more people I work with, the more I am learning. I’m already noticing how my new-found coaching skills are impacting my training courses and ELT classes. I may have initially been unsure about the value of embarking on a coaching course, now I feel it has been invaluable. I now have skills which add to my own personal growth, boost my current trainer skills, and which provide me another avenue of business.

So, friends! Spread the word – I am an English-speaking coach in the middle of Europe. Ideal for all you English-speakers living and working in Europe who could benefit from someone who will truly listen to you with the goal of moving you forward – professionally and/or personally (it's all about 'mobility'). It’s early days but watch out for news on more keeptraining coaching offerings in 2012. I’ll certainly keep you posted!

For now, have a wonderful, peaceful festive season.

When was the last time you felt truly listened too?

I’ve recently discovered something amazingly powerful and simply – well, simple.

Listening.

Being at ease, interested and totally focused on the person talking, I can give the gift of true listening. The results can be extremely powerful. How do I know this? I’ve begun to experience it on the coaching course I’ve just started. It’s early days and my fellow students and I are slowly getting to grips with it ourselves – along with dozens of other fascinating coaching tools.

“Ease creates. Urgency destroys.” Nancy Kline

The source of this philosophy is an American lady called Nancy Kline. Over a period of 15 years, she developed the “Thinking Environment”. Her book, “Time to Think” gives a full and detailed account of how she and her colleagues have worked through ideas based on listening to help individuals and organisations move forward. It’s a set book on our course and I would thoroughly recommend it to anyone who’s job or daily life revolves around communicating with others.

“A Thinking Environment is not just a theory and set of skills. It is a way of being in the world.” Shirley Edwards of Xerox

I’m nearly at the end of the book, at the part where she describes how doctors advised that her alternative course of action to deal with her cancer would kill her within a month. That was nearly 40 years ago. One major aspect of her experience was how the medical profession didn’t listen to her, treated her as something to be fixed without taking her – the person – into (much) consideration. A common trap for those of us whose mission it is to help.

“We think that to help is only to talk, to ask, to suggest.” NK

We believe, in our rushed, busy lives, that by delivering a quick answer or solution we’re saving time. But are we?

“To take time to listen thoroughly is to increase the total time available to you. Interrupting takes twice as long.” NK

Learning about thinking carefully and listening thoroughly, I started to see how this philosophy could be applied to teaching. Teacher Talking Time regularly pops up as an issue for discussion. I know I’m fond of talking about my favourite subjects. I like to show my students how wise, knowledgeable and well-educated I am by telling them all the ways they can improve their English skills. When given half the chance, they do actually come up with their own ideas for improvement. More experienced learners can often fix their own mistakes when given space to think in their own time.

“If you really believe that someone can think well for themselves, you do not feel the need to think for them… The quality of your listening will ignite their thinking.” Course notes, Barefoot Coaching.

Being aware of the power and value of listening, I’m going to test it out in my teaching sessions and see what impact my new skills have on my students. Away from professional life, I’m applying this new found knowledge at home too. And you know what? It’s actually a huge relief to not feel the need to come up with the solution all the time. Listening – truly, genuinely and actively listening is definitely a skill to be learned. The reward is more energy. Wracking your brains for the answer, trying to come up with the next pithy question before the other person has finished, or jumping in to complete the other person’s sentence – that can be exhausting. Sit back with ease, relax, keep your ears and eyes – and heart – open, and you’ll be amazed at how the other person blossoms before your eyes!

 

Teaching CLIL in an International environment

After listening with great interest to the discussions about Content Language Integrated Learning at the Professional Development conference last Saturday, I had my own first experience of CLIL teaching this week. I was asked, at very short notice, to step in and give a 2 1/2 day presentations skills seminar at a local university. Sure, no problem! I said. I currently run an in-company "Presenting in English" workshop. Adapting the material for this assignment should be no problem.

What I discovered was that my Presenting in English material was, pretty much, directly useable for straight presenting skills. Good to know that my English learners are benefitting from a strong emphasis on this essential skill. For me personally, the refreshing aspect was being able to focus solely on the presenting skills. Taking the emphasis off language issues was great!

Naturally, when the job is to focus more on the language than the specific presentation skills, I give my all to do that. What I discovered in the CLIL situation was how refreshing it was to pull back and monitor the overall effect the presenter had on the audience. The English teacher in me did hear the minor linguistic errors, occasional mis-pronunciations etc., but I could let them go and concentrate on the most interesting aspects: body language, voice power, presenter interaction, visual aids useage, power point impact and overall effect on the audience.

The students found it considerably more difficult using English to do something a number of them already felt confident doing. We agreed up front that our focus was not on their English skills - nor would they be marked down for any language-related mistakes. This took a certain amount of pressure off them! They also acknowledged the benefit of making the extra effort to work in English; most expected to have to present in English in the near future in order to get internship places or jobs.

It turned out to be a very positive few days for both myself and the students. They said they had enjoyed the hands-on practise and personal feedback on their presenting styles. I experienced first hand how CLIL works and the advantages having a teaching English background can have when working in an international environment such as a European business school. Most especially, I enjoyed doing what I do with a different emphasis - it felt a little like a holiday, to not focus solely on English! Integrating content and language seems like a logical and sensible step forward to me. I will certainly be doing more of it!

Ever learning

Had another opportunity to learn from a student this week. It was meeting 6 of a block of 10 focusing on job interviewing in English. D. is a bright, motivated young HR professional looking for a new job. She approached me to help get her fit for upcoming job interviews which might be in English. Her being in HR herself makes it doubly interesting; we’re able to look at the process from both sides.

Her English is already pretty good but as is so often the case, she’s advanced enough to be aware of the gaps. The situation also gives me the chance to talk with her in depth about HR stuff which interests me personally. She can follow and understand me perfectly; expressing her own opinions in clear, fluent English is the problem. And here the crux. We were practising arguing a point in an interview situation – target language: linking words such as however, although, nevertheless, for example, in this instance etc.

I set the scene and chose the topic for discussion: interviewing HR manager believes women between 25 and 35 shouldn’t be employed because they’ll all go off and get pregnant (!) D. laughed heartily. Apparently she works with a man who actually holds similar beliefs. She did an excellent job of patiently explaining to misogynistic HR manager (me) why one can’t exclude anyone from the hiring process and that much research proves the value of women to organistions. There wasn’t much use of the target language but she did a good job.

Feedback time. She explained how she can – and does – argue such points with ease and intelligence in German. In English she struggles to find the words and ends up going off in all directions until she can get back to her point. Nothing surprising there. So, to help, I gave her an example of how I would argue the point in English.

Now, this is one of my favourite, hotly argued topics; off I went, with ease and fluency making my point. Ta da! Aren’t I brilliant!?

My lovely student, D. looked at me with fire in her eyes and explained how, when she hears me speak, it’s so obvious that is what one can say. My use of English is elegant and fluent – she understood every word – but recreating such language herself is beyond her.

And that’s when it hit me. I took advantage of the situation to “show off” and in the process, highlighted my student’s weakness. I was enjoying being able to sound off (about something close to my own heart) without considering the impact on D. We had our target language and a focus for the role play, I should have kept to that and helped her use the language she has in a confident way. Instead, I was virtually lecturing her on how to deal with narrow-minded, sexist managers. Something she is perfectly capable of doing herself – in her own language.

This was a wake-up call and I’m very grateful to D. for holding a metaphorical mirror up before me. She reminded me that my job is to concentrate on her language skills, not discuss my favourite topics as if we’re two best friends out socially together. On the one hand, it’s ideal to have common themes to talk about in 1-2-1 coaching. On the other hand, we’re there for a specific reason and as “The Teacher”, I mustn’t loose focus.

A lesson re-learned. Thanks D.

One poor lesson does not a poor teacher make

After Thursday’s shenanigans with my kids, I went on to have 2 lessons – 2 mediocre lessons. Fortunately, the first was just an hour, one-to-one. We spontaneously took ourselves off to a café and sat outside in the sun. My student felt it was the best English lesson she’d ever had. I suspect her feeling had much more to do with the sunshine than the actual lesson.

The second, much longer with 14 young students, wasn’t so successful. Despite half an hour outside in the sun. We started off well – the opening of the lesson which I had planned. Things started to deteriorate when I had “a bright idea” which I hadn’t planned or thought through. Often, my bright ideas actually work out which is why I continue to give into such urges. However, this one really didn’t work and my students began to loose interest. A room full of young people on a sunny day who’ve already been in a classroom since 8am and know they’ve still got a number of hours till home time, is not a good place to be if you’re slightly off your game.

Now I’m writing this from a distance, things look less dire. As I would say to any colleague, we all have bad days. It was a shame that this was the last meeting of the semester. I shan’t see the group again until December. Time to get it right by then.

The other factor which has left me feeling less than satisfied with the situation is “grading”. This group is one of the few where I have to grade the participants’ oral performance. A tricky task at any time, especially when I feel so many of them have a brilliant command of the language (better than many native-speakers back in parts of the UK). Someone is often disappointed and questions the grade – questions me. Why did I give them that grade? I don’t know about you dear reader, but I would never have dreamt of questioning my tutor as to the grade I was given. Firstly, s/he knew what they doing (presumably), had given the mark due thought and consideration. Secondly, I would be too busy getting on with something else by then!

Perhaps I’m too far removed from the stress of getting a degree today. Life moves on and other things take precedence. To be fretting over a couple of grade points seems such a mis-use of precious energy. But then, someone else might point out that worrying about one less-than-brilliant lesson is an equally poor use of energy. We’re all in different places at different times. I guess as long as we can look back and review a situation objectively and learn from it, then it was worth it. That’s what development’s all about, right?!

Room for Improvement

Today started with a bit of a battle. Or at least a bout of miscommunication which could have escalated into a battle. Once again, I saw how my under-developed communication skills can let me down. Poor familial inter-communication, it’s an ongoing issue for we 4 Hunters.

As a trainer, clarity and transparency are essential to help participants get the most from a training course. If they are constantly having to ask each other “what did she mean?” Or they feel confused and lost, the group soon becomes uncertain and dissolves into a dissatisfied well of “why are we here?” The training objectives can’t be met, post-course evaluation is negative and the client never books again.

This I know. This I strive to avoid. Indeed, I feel I’m good at communicating with my participants, on the whole. If a misunderstanding should arise, or someone is unclear about any instruction, they know they can ask me to explain again. And again if necessary. Without clear, two-way communication, there is little sense in running a training course.

Why, then, is it so difficult to apply the same knowledge, skills etc. in my own family? To make sure that each person has understood what has been discussed and either agreed to or not agreed to? It’s a basic rule when working with groups, get acknowledgement and tacit agreement from each and every individual in the group. This avoids problems and dissension down the line. Today is a point in case. Teenage daughter had arranged to go with friend to shopping mall. The return journey was arranged. The getting there, however, was the sticking point. Daddy had to be at work for a meeting by 9. Mummy didn’t have to anywhere till 11.30. Teenage daughter subsequently fixed in her mind that mummy would run her and friend to shopping mall at 9.30am so they could maximise their shopping time until the return bus departed. Mummy, on the other hand, was still working out a plan whereby she wouldn’t have to drive back and forth, wasting time and petrol.

The shopping day dawned; mummy got up extra early in order to prepare that day’s classes and meetings. In her mind, leaving around about 10 would be OK. Then she’d only have an hour or so to kill until her first lesson.

At 9.35 came the shout up the stairs – “Are we going now?” “No! I’m not ready” (Indeed, I was in the bathroom, drying my hair without any make-up on). I won’t bore you with teenage daughter’s response to the situation. Needless to say, she was most upset at her plans not running according to her schedule.

OK. We got out the door at 9.57am. Sullen silence in car. Then little teenage son pipes up – “Bank!” Oh yes, he needed to withdraw funds for shopping (he was magnanimously invited along on this trip!) I pulled into bank – to find I couldn’t park anywhere due to the extensive road works. Eventually managed to stop fairly near to be told that daddy had said teenage son could have cash from the family coffers, rather than use his own hard-earned pocket money for clothing (deemed an essential, parental-funded item.) Fair enough. I was simply unaware of this agreement and had no clue as to how much the head of the household wanted to fork over. I had to make an executive decision and take out what I thought would be approved by daddy.

So, cash handed over, I attempted to exit the dead-end road so as to get on with journey to shopping mall. Oh no, not so hastily. A huge skip truck was by now, blocking my exit. Another 5 minutes wasted. Teenage daughter muttering and huffing. Little teenage son feeling bad about money confusion. Friend utterly silent in back with iPod firmly plugged into his ears. Me. Well. Breathing deeply and calmly. There’s nothing be done other than wait. And consider. Here’s another fine mess you’ve gotten yourself into.

The kids were eventually dropped at the mall at 10.33am. I drove off towards my appointment with an an inconvenient 40 minutes to spare. So. What did I do. Came and sat in a café and wrote this blog post.

What have I learned? I really need to apply some of my trainer skills at home. I shall approach the subject this evening and point out what happens when instructions are not clear and agreement is not checked and clarified. That is, of course, if we’re all in the house at the same time. Teenage daughter has invited friends over to BBQ and little teenage son has football training. Head of household will probably stay safely tucked away in the office till late again. I guess it’s little wonder that none of us communicates effectively…

Something good for my community and me

Self-development is on my mind at the moment – it’s in my thoughts most days. Today it’s particularly occupying me. I got up extra early this morning (something I avoid most times) in order to participate in a special activity at my kids’ school. As one of 6 parents who have donated many hours over the last year or so, I’m happy and proud to being doing something positive and constructive in the community. The project is called “f.ü.r.” – which stands for Friends Practise Respect (and consideration for others). Our aim is to raise awareness among school kids about different types of violence (hitting, bullying, wounding with words, damaging our surroundings, excluding people). We focus on how to stop, reduce and avoid violence in school.

I can’t take credit for altruistically volunteering to do good. My motivation was initially to do something interesting from which I would personally benefit. I saw an opportunity to apply and widen my trainer skills whilst also practising and improving my German. Violence is something I find abhorrent, even more so when it’s practised on children by children. So part of me was also drawn to wanting to contribute to doing something about it.

Today was the 6th time we’d facilitated the process in a classroom. Once again, we were surprised by how different our experience was. The very first time, we were all nervous, pre-occupied with remembering our lines, getting all the parts in the right order, managing our props. I have to admit that my part was much less than the others – I’ve learned only 2 lines off by heart because of my lack of German fluency – and that I was less nervous. Also less engaged, if I’m honest.

Since that first performance, we’ve come a long way. Last week was probably the best “show” so far. We all found our flow; I finally clicked with my role (I often need extra time to internalise material designed by someone else) and we went for our habitual post-performance coffee full of energy and positivity. We – 4 women, 2 men – have gelled into a close-knit “f.ü.r.-team”. And I’m proud of having overcome my “Presenting in German” inhibitions; indeed, I can provide a special twist to our message, as a foreigner who could have suffered exclusion, I’m fully accepted in my team and seemingly from all the children in each classroom. Truly a wonderful feeling. Which confirms my ongoing self-development. I have tangible evidence of how far I’ve come since a newly arrived English woman in a country where I couldn’t string a sentence together 15 years ago.

Another thing I’ve learned is that it’s possible to be active in my community alongside a busy work and home schedule. There are evenings when we have a meeting scheduled when I really wish I hadn’t joined up. Then we’re altogether and I’m glad to know these people. We have achieved no mean feat – it does me good to see an idea become reality. Now we’re ready to move to the next level of our project and present violence prevention to older classes. Bring it on! How fab that I can benefit while helping groups of children develop their own sense of right and wrong. It’s a win-win situation which costs me a little less sleep occasionally and a few evenings away from the TV.

Networking with other EFL Teaching Professionals

I was happy to volunteer to attend the inter-ELTA meeting, representing the Stuttgart association (ELTAS), on Saturday. In Hamburg, a city I hadn’t visited before. So, despite the 11 hour round trip by train, I was very excited at the prospect of getting a whiff of sea air.

In fact, the train journey up north proved very fruitful – I managed to concentrate for the most part, on a number of outstanding jobs (lesson planning, report writing etc). Completely undisturbed. It was very satisfying. A good lesson for future reference: get myself tied down somewhere with no option for escape and simply knuckle down. Hum. If only it were always so simple….

Anyway, I’d planned on exploring a little on Friday evening once I’d checked into the hotel. That plan went by-the-by: it was just too cold and wet and dark. A hot meal and early night seemed a much better option. Especially after all my hard work on the train. This proved to be a good decision. The next day was bright and sunny. Up and breakfasted in good time, I used the opportunity to walk down to the nearest bit of water. As luck would have it, the stranger I asked for directions turned out to be a sea-faring local (are there any other kind of local in Hamburg?) who accompanied me down to the outlook where he explained about the container ships we could see in the harbour. All very interesting. I was touched by his willingness (indeed, eagerness) to talk with me. An excellent start to the day. And the smell of the sea….. ahhhhh. How I miss that. It really lifted my spirits.

Arriving at the meeting place, I was greeted by one of my online Xing contacts, Emma! How cool is it to meet a virtual contact in the flesh. (See current blog post in Fabulous Frauen). Then I was greeted by 2 familiar faces from the BESIG conference in Bielefeld – John and Wolfgang. We three sat together and enjoyed some typical British-humour interactions It’s always nice to have some light-hearted moments during serious meetings.

The meeting itself was primarily about sharing info on how the different associations manage their businesses. A very interesting insight into what other teachers do. A side-effect was the networking among we participants, always an invaluable activity, indeed an essential part of any business. We were able to conclude the day with an agreement to set up a common platform for each association to post on their current activities and to share info useful to the inter-ELTA group as a whole. How exciting is that to be part of something in its infancy. I, for one, am very much looking forward to seeing how the inter-ELTA wiki develops.

In the meantime, I have to figure when and how to get back to visit Hamburg properly!

Have I become a network junkie?

Usually, I’m somebody who likes to keep my friends to a minimum. My sister has hundreds of friends around the world. It all seemed like such an effort to keep in touch, arrange get togethers, remember birthdays and attend special occasions. I’m a classic introvert; I get my energy from stillness, quiet times and reflection. Having lots of people around me, lots of people relying on me – well, it’s just not my thing.

So I thought.

Now I’m hooked on social media & networking. I’m connecting with complete strangers around the world. And I’m loving it (a totally incorrect grammatical structure but widely recognised from a certain ad campaign).

This morning, for example, I started a conversation – via FB messages – with a guy I “met” in twitter who lives in Australia, on the Gold Coast (how lovely must that be!?) He looks like a nice chap, from his picture. His message was well written and friendly, so I responded – communicating with him as if he was an acquaintance of many years! Bizaare!

Often, when I meet someone in the traditional, face-to-face way, I’m more cautious, I hold myself back and tend not to share too much information. I like to get the measure of a person before I commit myself to getting to know them.

Since concentrating on networking for my business, I’ve turned into more of an extrovert. I actually enjoy getting out and about and meeting people – and then going home and checking out how I can carry on the conversation online.

Being home and carrying on a conversation online…. This is the ideal for me. Connecting from the comfort of my office, dining table, sofa. It’s on my terms, in my environment without the pfaff of putting on any make up or deciding if my outfit is appropriate. I can dispense with all that stuff and focus on communicating. And communicating in a thoughtful, delete-that-sentence-if-I-don’t-like-it way.

The people I “meet” online seem really cool – interesting, informed, intelligent, motivated people. Just like me! Maybe that’s why I feel I can connect so quickly and easily, I’m finding like-minded people. Presumably they’re doing what I’m doing, networking from home, work, where ever, so there’s instantly a natural affinity.

Or maybe it’s a case of the rose-tinted glasses making it seem that way. I used to be known as Shelley, the one who only sees the good in people. She’s so naïve and dreamy. Over the years, I’ve developed more of a cynical, “worldly” view and tried to be more like other grown ups. But I guess my natural tendency towards positive outlooks still rules. I can’t help it. I genuinely like people (even if I don’t need to be around lots of people all the time), I truly believe they’re good. Which quite clearly isn’t always the case. However, by connecting through a computer screen, I can enjoy “new friends” from a distance. I can exchange ideas and thoughts with them as and when I choose. I can walk away when I need to – although “unfollowing” someone in twitter would be hard. That would indicate that I find them no longer useful or interesting – a very hurtful thing. And I’m learning such a lot. Ultimately, that’s what life’s about, surely? Learning, discovering, developing and equally learning about, discovering new people and developing new connections.

It’s a wonder. I’m very happy to have met all the people I have over the last 18 months and look forward to all the new connections I shall make in the coming months.

Now I really must get on with some proper work – bye for now!

Michelle

Busy Days are Best

I’ve discovered my stress levels increase when I have a home office day… On days when I’ve been on the go all day, running from appointment to appointment, having a whole day to myself seemed like just what I needed. Since the start of this year, I’ve had more days in the office than not. This is not as good as I thought!

There definitely needs to be an element to my development plan for unstructured days. When I’m booked for various classes, I have a plan for the day. Left to my own devices, well – no plan! This has to change.

Fortunately, I met a very interesting man recently. Brian Mayne developed what he calls Goal Mapping.

I have the book, am registered for the online version and have networked with Brian’s German colleague, Timo Pommer. I’ve still to map out one of my (many) goals. Which one to start with?

OK. So my first goal is to draw up a goal. Just after I’ve finished blogging and checking out my social media interests and reading the news and….

Ahhhhh. Here lies the problem. Put the laptop away and focus.

Right. I’m off. Will report back when I’ve mapped out a goal.

For now, happy International Women’s Day to you.

Michelle

Am I a teacher or a trainer?

Last week, I had my first ever coaching session. As instructed, I came with my topic for discussion. However, within a few minutes, we’d touched on another of “my issues”, namely:

What am I? What do I do?

At this point in time, I consider myself to be in a transition phase so answering this question was not clear cut. What I did confirm was my reluctance to label myself “teacher”. That’s what my mother was – very successfully. Am I just a follow-on from my mother? Have I not managed to forge my own unique path in life?

Delving into the psychology of my mother-daughter issues is not my aim here. Exploring my development as a teacher of English as a foreign language is. The process started a while ago – informally. The thing with development is that it’s important to track and record. So, this blog will be my forum for doing that; doing it “publicly” is a bit of an experiment to see whether my issues are common to others too. I suspect they may well be.

Anyway, back to the coaching. My coach and I did get onto the main topic eventually. We agreed to leave the teacher-trainer issue for another time (or for a different kind of professional!). The development of my business was what I wanted to explore. How to move from weekly 90 minute classes to only offering workshops over 2 to 3 days. Although this move seems to be happening of its own accord, I want to proactively manage it and capture the potential I see here.

For now let me leave you with this thought from a guy called John Dewey:

“The self is not something ready made, but something in continuous formation through choice of action.”

Try to take time for yourself and your own development - in fact, keep developing, never stop!

Yours,

Michelle